Keeping it HOT after 40

Sex changes as we age and all of the changes are not welcome ones. Women in their 40s often experience a drop in their libido and an increase in vaginal dryness can start to manifest itself. Many women begin to experience hormonal changes because their estrogen and testosterone levels begin to drop. Discussing this with your doctor is key if you're experiencing uncomfortability with intimacy.

It's important for a woman to keep the dopamine center of the brain revved up because it plays a huge part in their sexual being. A reduction of dopamine in the brain is associated with the development of Parkinson's disease. We don't want that now do we? I didn't think so, so we've got to keep things hot and spicy in the bedroom. We live in a rush rush rush society these days but it's very important for women to realize that they are not SUPER WOMEN. Women expend energy all day long on kids, work, home, husband, lovers, parents, grandkids, etc. Unless she does something on a regular basis to replenish and rejuvenate herself, she's not going to have enough energy for anything — including sex as bad as she may want it. Her mind is saying "YES" but her body is not willing to go along for the ride because it's exhausted!!

Women need to learn the three R's: Relax, Relate, Release. Relaxing ones' mind is such a liberating act. When a woman is relaxed she's better able to relate to her partner because she's emotionally AVAILABLE. Those two elements (relaxing and relating) can lead to the ultimate RELEASE - you got it, a body shaking orgasm. Meditation is a great way for one to relax because it frees your mind. Show me a woman that multitasks all week long and I'll show you a stressed woman. Everybody needs quiet time with themselves. It's how you learn WHO you are. Try to spend at least an hour a week rejuvenating yourself with your closest girlfriend or a group of them. Be silly, empathize with each other, catch up on what's going on in each others lives, laugh with each other and cry if you need to but guaranteed you'll gain energy from it.


If your sex life is leaving you bored you may want to try these 2 simple things: new locations and new positions. Sex in bed is different than sex on the couch or your lover pounding you from behind as you're bent over the dining room table. I'm an advocate for doing it wherever, whenever as long as you're not being disrespectful with it. Different positions allow you too feel different sensations and the bad "girl" can come out when you let your hair down and let that inner freak do her thing. No lover in your life? It's ok..... Have sex often, even if it means having it alone. Yes, I said even if it means having it alone, it keeps the vaginal walls healthy, elastic and responsive. What? I'm just saying!! lol